We tend to think transformation is one big, dramatic moment — a breakdown, a breakthrough, a lightning bolt from the universe.
But in my life, the deepest change hasn’t come all at once.
It’s come in waves. Through a series of small, unexpected choices that felt different than anything I’d ever let myself do before.
It started with five words from a stranger at a women’s retreat:
“Try something different.”
My life hasn’t unfolded in gentle waves. It’s been more like a rollercoaster — fast, intense, unpredictable.
There have been moments I wanted to scream, moments I wanted to get off… and also moments of pure thrill, joy, and aliveness.
Because the truth is, I’ve never lived a boring life. And I wouldn’t want to.
But every time I chose something different — even a small shift — the entire track changed beneath me.
When I met my partner, I didn’t know that choosing to stay in that moment would start a chain reaction.
Because of him, I experienced real love. Real respect.
And when someone shows you what it feels like to be honored, it becomes impossible to keep accepting anything less.
Once I felt that kind of love and respect in my relationship, I couldn’t ignore what I was still tolerating at work.
I had spent years being belittled, micromanaged, and energetically drained by someone who cloaked control in “healing.” I thought it was normal. I told myself I was lucky. I was traveling the world. I was working in powerful spaces. But once I knew what it felt like to be honored… the contrast became too loud to ignore.
So I tried something different again.
I started putting feelers out, even though I wasn’t sure where I’d land. And within a few months, I had a new job — one that completely changed the trajectory of my life again.
That new job brought more than just a better environment — it brought me face to face with myself.
It introduced me to shadow work in a way I had never encountered before.
Up until then, most of what I thought was healing had been high-vibe, surface-level, keep-it-positive energy.
But this was different. This was about going into the parts of me I had never let see the light — the scared little girl who was trying to hold it all together. The version of me that would rather stay in a familiar cage than risk the unknown.
I realized I didn’t actually love and trust myself the way I thought I did.
And even more confronting — I didn’t fully respect women.
That cracked something wide open in me.
I had no idea how much of my life had been shaped by that scared part of me — the one that learned to survive by over-functioning, over-giving, staying small, or staying invisible.
She wasn’t bad. She wasn’t broken.
She was trying to protect me.
And the truth is, most of us don’t even realize she’s running the show.
That’s why “try something different” matters so much to me now.
Because it’s not about forcing change — it’s about meeting that part of yourself with just enough safety to say,
“We don’t have to keep doing it this way.”
That’s what I’ve been doing ever since.
Trying something different. Again and again.
Not just to change my life — but to become someone I actually love, trust, and respect.
What Trying Something Different Really Means
Trying something different isn’t about reinventing your whole life overnight.
It’s about making one choice that your old self would’ve never made — and doing it with love.
It’s about staying when you usually run.
Listening when you usually override.
Opening when you usually shut down.
It’s about building trust with yourself, one moment at a time.
And if you’re in that space now — where something feels off but you can’t name it…
Where you’ve done the healing but still feel disconnected…
Where a part of you is whispering “maybe it’s time for something new” —
I see you.
You don’t need a full plan.
Just a breath. A moment. A different choice.
And if you want someone to walk beside you in that —
I’m here.
How to Try Something Different (Without Forcing It)
Trying something different doesn’t mean making a huge life change.
It means interrupting your usual pattern — gently, honestly, in real time.
Here are a few ways to begin:
Notice your exit strategy.
Do you ghost? Explain yourself too much? Get defensive?
Just notice it. That’s a doorway.Pause before you say yes.
Not every yes is true. Ask yourself, “What would ‘different’ sound like here?”Let the silence hang.
If you usually fill space to keep things smooth, try not filling it. Just breathe.Change your physical response.
Soften your shoulders instead of tensing.
Drop your voice instead of raising it.
Hold your own gaze in the mirror for one extra second.Let something be easier.
If your pattern is pushing, try allowing.
If your pattern is holding it all, try asking for support.
You don’t have to do all of this.
Just try one small thing your old self wouldn’t have.
That’s the beginning of everything.